Brian Luke Seaward

Dear Blog fans… I am having many problems (but no stress) with posting the blog today and I don’t know how to fix things… so below is what I was able to salvage…my apologies.

• Stress Tip For The Day:

Are there good addictions? Some people see exercise as being a good addiction, but there are others who say that addictions of any kind are an attempt, consciously, more likely unconsciously, of avoidance. Still others suggest that addictions of any kind are an attempt to fill a spiritual vacuum. Regarding addictions, there is no separation between mind, body, spirit and emotions. Today it’s time to take an honest look at yourself and your behaviors (all of them). If you are not sure about any potential addictions, try doing “without” for a few days and see where truth lies. If you are still not sure, ask a close friend. Often what we fail to see in ourselves is quite obvious to others. Finally, as the saying goes, everything is moderation.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:

The topic of addictions is vast and no blog can begin to address it. But there are lots of books, links and resources of interest.. Below are a
few:

When Society Becomes and Addict, Anne Wilson Schaef

Codependent No More, Melodie Beattie

http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/

• Quote for the Day:

“Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether it be a narcotic, alcohol, morphine or idealism.”— Carl G. Jung

• Photo of the Day:

Today’s photo is a beach scene on the island of Kauai. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.
is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress
management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality.
He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand
Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward,
The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Several years ago I taught a graduate course called behavioral medicine where we focused a fair amount of attention on the addiction process. As it turns out, there are two kinds of addictions: Chemical addictions (such as drugs and alcohol) and process addictions, including gambling, eating, sex, money and shopping, even people (this is called co-dependency). One book I often quoted from that time from was by Anne Wilson Schaef. The book was called When Society Becomes and Addict. Her premise was that addiction is an inherent part of the human condition—tied directly to the ego’s need to be satisfied. Where there is ego/control issues, there is stress. According to her (and others) we are all addicts of some kind. For several years television watching was the number addiction, and of course alcoholism. Experts suggest today that addictions to technology tops the list (e.g. cell phones, internet, etc.). The term today is “screen addictions, ” and the problem is rampant. Regardless of the addictive behavior, it becomes problematic; stressful to everyone near and far, when there is denial about the addiction and refusal to get help. Addictions are some of our biggest health problems today and where there is an addiction, there is stress.

• Stress Tip For The Day:

Are there good addictions? Some people see exercise as being a good addiction, but there are others who say that addictions of any kind are an attempt, consciously, more likely unconsciously, of avoidance. Still others suggest that addictions of any kind are an attempt to fill a spiritual vacuum. Regarding addictions, there is no separation between mind, body, spirit and emotions. Today it’s time to take an honest look at yourself and your behaviors (all of them). If you are not sure about any potential addictions, try doing “without” for a few days and see where truth lies. If you are still not sure, ask a close friend. Often what we fail to see in ourselves is quite obvious to others. Finally, as the saying goes, everything is moderation.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:

The topic of addictions is vast and no blog can begin to address it. But there are lots of books, links and resources of interest.. Below are a few:

When Society Becomes and Addict, Anne Wilson Schaef

Codependent No More, Melodie Beattie

http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/

• Quote for the Day:

“Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether it be a narcotic, alcohol, morphine or idealism.”

— Carl G. Jung

• Photo of the Day:

Today’s photo is a beach scene on the island of Kauai. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

It’s fear that causes us to lie. Simply stated, the ego feels insecure about the course of our actions (often motivated by fear). So… to avoid embarrassment, we bend the truth, tell a white lie, or in some cases a whopper! Lies may see like a way to avoid the pain of embarrassment, but it doesn’t take long to see the foundations of trust, either in a friendship or working relationship crumble, then disintegrate! Once trust is violated, it’s hard to ever get that back. Ironically, it’s
stress that can cause one to lie, and it is stress that becomes compounded when one perpetuates the lie(s). The weight of a lie can be a heavy burden. Living with the incongruency of a falsehood tears at the heart. This, in turn, affects (taints) all other behavior. Many people have made the news with their whopper lies including Martha Stewart, Barry Bonds, Arnold Schwarzenegger. Things are not looking good for Lance Armstrong, either. But are we any different, really?
Taking the high road means to walk the path of integrity, domesticating the ego to be our bodyguard, not the CEO of our lives. Telling the truth is the noble course of action.

• Stress Tip For The Day:
Make a habit to observe your thoughts today (and every day). When you catch a fear-based lie passing through your lips (preferably before), stop, ponder and explain your fear then correct your communication and ask for forgiveness. Making peace with yourself at the earliest possible moment is one of the surest ways to return to inner peace.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:
I would like to recommend a really good book on forgiveness. It’s by Fred Luskin (who does research on forgiveness out of Stanford University), and it’s called Forgive for Good.

• Quote for the Day:
“Tell the truth… it’s easier to remember!” — Mark Twain

• Photo of the Day:
It will be quite sad if we learn that Lance Armstrong fell under the spell of fear in an effort to win the Tour de France. Time will tell and I wish him well. This photo was taken in Colorado at one of our many cycling races. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

One of the tenants of psychology is the concept called the Yerkes-Dodson Law or curve. With performance on the bottom and arousal on the left, the graph showed that arousal can and will increase performance to a point (and this point differs from person to person). Then performance decreases, sometimes dramatically. Arousal is another word for stress. It’s also another word for sensory stimulation. Similarly, performance can also be described as health. So another interpretation of the Yerkes-Dodson curve suggests that to a point, stress (sensory stimulation) is good, but past that point, all hell breaks loose. I first heard of this in my work with Olympic athletes, but the concept applies to anyone.

We are living is times of sensory bombardment. While many people call this the “information age,” others have nicked-named it the “marketing age,” where not blank space, real, cyber or otherwise, is left blank. Bits and bytes of information are flying everywhere. Signs of information overload include a shortened attention span, irritability, poor memory, even poor reaction time. Because there is no separation between mind and body, when these conditions persist, the next sign is burnout, followed by some aspect of health that becomes compromised. The key in psychological terms is this: Know your threshold and don’t go beyond it.

• Stress Tip For The Day:
What is your threshold for sensory stimulation? People under the age of 20 seem to have an unquenchable thirst for sensory stimulation. Conversely, the elderly do best when they stick to a routine, perhaps minimizing/filtering what comes in . Experts in the field of brain physiology with an eye on Alzheimer’s suggest that the brain needs new stimulation (e.g., a new language, Sudoku, cross word puzzles, etc.) Experts in the field of stress management remind us of the importance of meditation as a means to stabilize, if not master, this threshold of excitement. Balance is the key. Knowing your excitement threshold is like knowing your checking account balance. What is your threshold for sensory stimulation? What do you do to master it? If you don’t have a practice of meditation, it is never too late to get started with it.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:
If you haven’t read the Newsweek article on Information Overstimulation, here is the link:
http://www.newsweek.com/2011/02/27/i-can-t-think.html

• Quote for the Day:
“I finally get meditation. It’s like deleting old emails.” — 8th grader at Sunset Middle School, Longmont, CO.

• Photo of the Day:
Today’s photo isn’t a photo at all. It’s a cartoon I had created for my textbook. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Have you ever dreamed of basking under the rays of the Tuscan sun (if you have seen the movie staring Diane Lane, then the answer is YES!) Well…our trip to Ireland last year was so successful that I was asked (many times over) to put together a similar type trip to Tuscany this year. I found one of the best tour companies for small groups like ours and the dates are set: Sept 23-Oct 1^st. We begin in Florence for two nights, then drive to the Tuscany countryside for four nights and end our trip on the Mediterranean Sea near the UNESCO villages of Cinque Terra. It will be a most memorable trip. We have several spots left and would LOVE to have you join us: Great food, awesome sights, and great like-minded people who wish to recalibrate their lifestyles toward optimal health and wellness with great food, morning meditations and some light lectures on various aspects of health and wellbeing (we even have 10 CE’s through the American Holistic Nurses Association. A link below has all the information. So…start packing your bags…

Stress Tip for the Day: Please consider joining us for a most memorable trip to Tuscany, Italy this fall. $3,600 (land package). Call or email for more details.

Links, Books & Movies Worth Noting: This link has all the information you need for our trip:

http://www.brianlukeseaward.net/tuscany.html

Quote for the Day: “We were given: Two hands to hold. Two legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.” —Anonymous

Photo for the Day: A photo of the unique, memorable Tuscan countryside.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Having just returned from Lansing, Michigan where I was invited to make a presentation at Michigan State University on the topic on The Call to Leadership, I felt inspired to share some insights from this presentation. The study of leadership is a study of the psychology of leadership; those qualities and aspects of personality that galvanize the human spirit to new heights of potential. There are some who say we are living in times of a crisis of leadership in all aspects of society. In such times people tend to look back in history and try to identify the best examples of leadership. Examples might include Nelson Mandela, Lewis and Clark, and one of my favorites, Ernest Shakleton. In this search for leadership, people also try to identify what are the best qualities of dynamic leadership including, but not limited to integrity, courage, honesty, inspiration, vision, and humility. The pitfalls of leadership are also examined and there tends to be no short list of qualities that are noticed. No matter how many shortcomings are listed, it is fair to say that they begin with stress in the form of arrogance coupled with fear” Simple stated, stress makes for bad leadership. Servant leadership is a term you might start listening for these days; a leader who works directly with people as opposed to remaining perched on the top. Leading from behind is also an expression you might hear more of. It speaks of unity building, consensus building and bringing people together rather than ruling by decree. Nelson Mandela referred to the bloodless transition out of Apartheid as leading from behind.

Stress Tip for the Day: How would you rate your leadership skills? Luminaries in many fields remind us that each of us is a leader, and at this time, this chapter of humanity, each of us needs to step up to the plate and demonstrate the epitome of dynamic leadership. This includes, but is not limited to, parenting skills, neighborhood meetings, environmental behaviors, driving, you name it.

Links, Books & Movies Worth Noting Many books have been written on the topic of leadership, but perhaps some of the best book are those autobiographies from those who have lead by example. For this reason I would like to recommend the following books:

South by Sir Ernest Shackleton

Reason for Hope by Jane Goodall

Long Walk to Freedom by Nelson Mandela

Quote for the Day: Normally I only have one quote, but this topic has no shortage of quotes from people who have been there: Enjoy!

“A leader should have an ability to see beyond the present problem”— Norman Vincent Peale

“Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.” ~Steve Jobs

“In matters of style, swim with the current. In matters of principle, stand like a rock.” —Thomas. Jefferson

“The only real training for leadership is leadership.” —Antony Jay

“Example is not the main thing in influencing others, it is the only thing.”—Albert Schweitzer

“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” —Abraham Lincoln

“Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” –John Fitzgerald Kennedy

“The manager asks how and when; the leader asks what and why.” —Warren Bennis

Photo for the Day: A photo of several Canada geese (these guys take turns leading). Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

When I was a little boy, my mother used to read me and my sister
stories from a big illustrated book of the Brothers Grimm. One of the
stories (and illustrations) I recall vividly involved a story of two
sisters. The younger sister was extremely kind. Her kindness was
surpassed only by her physical beauty. Her elder sister was equally
pretty, but extremely jealous, which she voiced in harsh words and
vicious comments. One day, while their parents were away, the two
sisters were home alone when an old woman with a sack of clothes came by the house in desperate need of water. The elder sister uttered nasty words refusing to help her. Upon hearing this, the younger sister ran to her aid and attended to all her needs. When fully rested, the elderly traveler said to the young women, I have gifts for you both. To the kind sister, she said, “Whenever you speak words of kindness, diamond, pearls and gems shall fall from your lips. Your kindness shall never be forgotten.” As the pretty young woman offered words of thanks, two precious diamonds and a sparkling ruby fell from her mouth into her hands. Upon seeing this, the elder sister demanded to know what the old woman would give her. “Every time you speak ugly words, snakes and frogs shall crawl out of your mouth.” The elder sister yelled, “Get out you old, miserable hag.” As she uttered these words, just as the traveled had foretold, two snakes slithered out of her mouth and
dropped to the floor, rapping themselves around her ankles. In case you missed the moral to this story, let me state the obvious: Choose your words wisely. It is easy to speak kind words when you are feeling happy. It is far more difficult to be diplomatic in times of stress, which is all the more reason to do so, if for no other reason, so there is less mess to clean up afterward. As my mother used to say, “I wish you many diamonds today and every day.”

When I was a little boy, my mother used to read me and my sister stories from a big illustrated book of the Brothers Grimm. One of the stories (and illustrations) I recall vividly involved a story of two sisters. The younger sister was extremely kind. Her kindness was surpassed only by her physical beauty. Her elder sister was equally pretty, but extremely jealous, which she voiced in harsh words and vicious comments. One day, while their parents were away, the two sisters were home alone when an old woman with a sack of clothes came by the house in desperate need of water. The elder sister uttered nasty words refusing to help her. Upon hearing this, the younger sister ran to her aid and attended to all her needs. When fully rested, the elderly traveler said to the young women, I have gifts for you both. To the kind sister, she said, “Whenever you speak words of kindness, diamond, pearls and gems shall fall from your lips. Your kindness shall never be forgotten.” As the pretty young woman offered words of thanks, two precious diamonds and a sparkling ruby fell from her mouth into her hands. Upon seeing this, the elder sister demanded to know what the old woman would give her. “Every time you speak ugly words, snakes and frogs shall crawl out of your mouth.” The elder sister yelled, “Get out you old, miserable hag.” As she uttered these words, just as the traveled had foretold, two snakes slithered out of her mouth and dropped to the floor, rapping themselves around her ankles.

In case you missed the moral to this story, let me state the obvious: Choose your words wisely. It is easy to speak kind words when you are feeling happy. It is far more difficult to be diplomatic in times of stress, which is all the more reason to do so, if for no other reason, so there is less mess to clean up afterward. As my mother used to say, “I wish you many diamonds today and every day.”

Stress Tip for the Day:

As was once explained to me, words are like arrows. Once they leave your month, you can never take them back. Think before you speak. Make it a habit to speak words of kindness today. Let your words be gems of light that raise consciousness to all who might hear them.

Links, Books & Movies Worth Noting

This link was sent to me last week, and its beautiful message brought tears to my eyes. I hope you are equally moved.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hzgzim5m7oU

Quote for the Day:

“Is it true, is it necessary, is it kind? These are three questions to ask yourself before you speak.” — Anne Morrow Lindbergh.

Photo for the Day:

Today’s photo is an image I took last year while filming Earth Songs up in Teton National Park. The Tetons are the crown jewel of the National Park system. Diamonds of a different kind. Enjoy.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

If you are a certain age, and you hear the word, “plastic,” you might just provide an immediate flashback to the movie The Graduate, where Dustin Hoffman is told that plastic IS the future. As a budding environmental activist I have often wondered about the ecological concerns of plastic, from grocery bags to water bottles to the leaching of chemicals (e.g., phthalates) from plastics into our food and water supply. Indeed, plastic is the future, but this future is not all that rosy. In fact, it’s quite problematic. As a fan of Public Radio, this week I happen to hear two interviews with Susan Freinkel, author of the new book, Plastic: A Toxic Love Story. Originally, it was her idea to go a whole day and not touch any plastic. Within minutes of trying, she realized this was impossible; Tooth brushes, toilet seats, door handles, cell phones, Ipads; the list is endless. Her book looks at the good, bad and ugly of our culture of plastic products. Perhaps one of her most interesting remarks is that polyethylene and other types of plastic (all by products of fossil fuels and natural gas) are not inert. The chemical composition interacts with all around it, including fluids such as water and foods when heated in microwaves and Teflon pans. These chemicals interfere with our hormones, and God only knows what else it affects or causes (e.g., cancers, Alzheimer’s, infertility, birth defects, etc.). Although it’s hard to escape the presence of plastics, it would be in everyone’s best interest to read up on the history of plastic over the past 50 years and see just what is known and unknown about this ubiquitous by-product. And… it goes without saying how much plastic (e.g., discarded water bottles) are trashing the planet!

• Stress Tip For The Day:
Refuse to be part of the “throw away culture! Bring your own bags when shopping. Reuse whenever possible (e.g., Baggies, etc.). Recycle all plastic whenever possible. Don’t cook with Teflon. Buy natural chewing gum (they use plastic in gum now!) Don’t buy plastic water bottles— Use stainless steel water bottles instead. It’s hard to find food in glass containers when so many are packaged in plastic, but items like salad dressing and tomato sauce come to mind. Try to be a little more conscientious of your use of plastic, particularly water bottles. Refuse to be part of the “throw away culture!

• Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
I haven’t read Susan Freinkel’s book yet, but I intend to. If you are at all interested, I highly recommend you take a look at the interview transcripts from both Fresh Air and Amazon.

http://www.npr.org/2011/04/19/135245835/our-toxic-love-hate-relationship-with-plastics

http://www.amazon.com/Plastic-Toxic-Story-Susan-Freinkel/dp/054715240X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1303441147&sr=1-1

• Quote for the Day:
“Modern technology owes ecology an apology.” ~Alan M. Eddison

“Don’t blow it—good planets are hard to find.” ~Quoted in Time

• Photo of the Day:
To honor Earth Day, I culled through my collection of photos to find THE image that spoke to my heart about Earth’s beauty today. This photo begged to be considered and I obliged. Happy Earth Day!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The words stress and change are used synonymously these days, and anyone who has had a flight delayed several times in as many hours, only to learn it’s cancelled at the end of the day knows all too well what airport stress is. Change within the airline industry can be stressful for everyone. While we all know about the extra charges for checked luggage, gone are the days of empty seats, walk in stand-by seats and polite customer service. Weather delays, mechanical difficulties, delayed flights, security breaches, and $5 bottles of water on sale past TSA security are the norm. Simply stated, tension runs high with this most “convenient” way to travel. To quote a stressed passenger last night, “The skies are not as friendly as advertised.” As I write this, I am sitting in Newark’s Airport having gone through all of the above changes. When faced with change such as airport and airline stress, one has to realize that practically everything is out of your control—save your attitude. Losing one’s temper doesn’t solve anything, and in fact, will make things worse in a place where everyone is on edge to begin with. Adaptation is the key; learning to adapt to the change that we are confronted with is essential. Creative problem solving comes in handing too, as does a sense of humor. It doesn’t hurt to pray either!

• Stress Tip For The Day: When flying to a distant city, have on hand the airline’s reservation number. This can prevent waiting in extremely longs lines at the customer service center. Taking the first flight out in the morning also ensures less hassle later in the day. It’s also a good idea to have on hand the name and phone number of a respectable hotel should you end up spending the night. (I got the last room at a hotel who’s name will go unmentioned, but it was startling to see the reception desk and hotel manager behind two inches of Plexiglas). Boarded up adjacent buildings, police sirens, woman walking in stiletto heals and spandex and an a occasional gunshot were not uncommon either (no exaggeration, it was a rough night). With the epidemic of bed bugs nationwide, good advice to follow is this: Place your luggage in the bathtub while sleeping to avoid bringing home any unwanted guests.

• Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:Many movies come to mind for some comic relief (which will surly come in handy), but Planes, Trains and Automobiles is a good start. Enjoy!

• Quote for the Day:“Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” —Victor Frankl

• Photo of the Day:A peaceful sight at Newark’s gate A-12, quite calm… hours after all the people who thought they were boarding a flight here learned their gate had changed to another terminal.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Today I received my copy of Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water... in Russian. I can recall growing up as a kid learning that people in Russia weren’t allowed to believe in God. Spirituality went underground. The KGB sent many people to Siberian gulags or worse, put them to death. Who would have ever thought a book like mine might be translated in Russian? I never did. I just had to share the excitement (and if anyone knows what the actual translation of the title is, please let me know.) Thanks!

An issue has been surfacing in the news lately, and the issue is water. Something that seems so natural and free is becoming rapidly less so. So significant is this stressor, that National Geographic dedicated an entire issue to the topic of water and our thirsty world (April, 2010). Newsweek Magazine also ran a cover story (October 2010) depicting corporate America’s desperate need for this valuable resource, calling water “The New Oil.” Here are some facts that will impact you now and the years to come:

• 97.5% of the earth’s water is salty, with only 2.5% of earth’s water considered fresh. 2/3’s of all fresh water is frozen

• Many US regions (e.g., Texas, Arizona, California) are draining underground aquifers quicker than they can be naturally restored.

• The demand for water increases with population, but the amount of water remains constant. Many fresh water streams contain hormones and antibiotics from prescription drugs flushed down toilets and agricultural run-off (petrochemical fertilizers, etc.) which is then consumed by the local citizens unknowingly.

• Americans use approximately 100 gallons of water at home each day (compared to 5 gallons/day in developing nations).

• It takes 2,500 gallons of water to make 1 pound of hamburger and 1,800 gallons to grow enough cotton for a pair of blue jeans.

• 1500 is the number of plastic water bottles consumed in 1 second in the US! Americans spent more money in 2010 on bottled water than on Ipods or movie tickets: $15 Billion.

• Clean water is a huge issue in China, so much so they tried (and failed) to license and export fresh water from the Great Lake Region in US and Canada. The Three-River Gorges reservoir in central China will tilt the earth’s axis by nearly an inch.

Stress Tip for the Day:

We, in America, have it pretty good for the most part, when compared to other parts of the world. Over half the world’s population does not have direct access to clean water (they have to walk miles to get it). Perhaps one of the first things you can do is stop buying water in plastic bottles, especially water transported from around the world, like Fiji. Please consider using a stainless steel water bottle to transport with you. The first step to simply to be more conscious about how you use this valuable and essential natural resource.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

NPR’s Fresh Air ran a program this week based on a new book called The Big Thirst. Here is the link, as well as some other links of interest:

http://www.npr.org/2011/04/11/135241362/the-worldwide-thirst-for-clean-drinking-water

http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/117/features-message-in-a-bottle.html

http://www.dec.ny.gov/docs/materials_minerals_pdf/waterbottles.pdf

Quote for the Day:

“There is no question that clean, affordable drinking water is essential to the health of our global community. But bottled water is not the answer in the developed world, nor does it solve problems for the 1.1 billion people who lack a secure water supply.” — Emily Arnold

Photo for the Day:

Today’s photo was taken in the Patagonia region of Chile where glaciers are melting rapidly. The Chilean Andes are said to hold vast amounts of fresh water, locked up in glaciers.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The hardest thing the ego must learn to do is to “let go,” specifically to let go of control. The ego often lives by the motto, “If some is good, more has got to be better.” Control comes in the way of emotional attachment, and its grip is very strong. We hang on to thoughts and feelings about ourselves, others, or a host of situations, well beyond the need to hang on. Ironically, in the process of emotional attachment, we give our power away. To paraphrase an old adage, “It takes strength to hang on, but it takes greater strength to let go.” There are many words and expressions to let go of emotional attachment: Cleanse, release, detach, move on, grieve, and perhaps the most important, forgiveness. The rules of letting go begin with examining your conscience to see what unresolved feelings of anger and fear still persist. Once recognized, let them go, and this may take several efforts. Like a little kid running down the street after a runaway nickel, the ego will release and then change its mind, grabbing for anything to hold on to. Detachment is a skill. With practice will serve you in stressful times. There are many ways to domesticate the ego. Detachment is one of the most important rules in this process.

Stress Tip for the Day

Comb through you mind to reflect on any issues, concerns, problems or situations where your ego has a hard time letting go. Remember, releasing/ cleansing isn’t a sign of resignation or apathy. It is a step toward liberation.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

Here are a few more links on the topic:

http://drbenkim.com/detaching-from-ego.htm

http://www.brianjohnpiccolo.com/articles/Detachment-Ego-and-Co-Creation.htm

Quote for the Day:

“He who would be serene and pure needs but one thing, detachment.” —Meister Eckhart

“ To be consistently effective, you must put a certain distance between yourself and what happens to you on the golf course. This is not indifference, it’s detachment.” — Sam Snead

Photo for the Day:

In combing through my mind for visual ideas for this blog entry, it didn’t take long to realize that this photo won hands down. It’s quite common to see hot air balloons in the morning skies here in Colorado. And, as we all know, a balloon cannot leave the ground without detachment.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

There is a high correlation between simplicity and happiness. The more things that clutter your mind, the greater the chance of feeling overwhelmed. The more responsibilities and possessions you carry, the greater the likelihood to obsess and fret about them. Balance is the key. Experts in the new field of positive psychology are beginning to examine exactly what makes a person happy. While there are many factors, simplicity in one’s life plays a large role in being happy. As a consumeristic 24/7, on demand society with a great standard of living (the envy of the rest of the world), by and large Americans don’t appear to be very happy. Perhaps that is because happiness isn’t a destination or final goal, it’s an attitude; a perception, that you carry in your heart. If there is a saboteur of happiness, most likely it’s the ego. Feelings of inadequacy, desires for more things, and comparisons to others can derail any attempts for locking in the perception of happiness. One key to happiness (and there are many) is to domesticate the ego.

Perhaps the most impressive study underscoring the importance of
quality friendships and the need for a strong support group was
conducted by Dr. David Spiegel who, years ago, studied the survival
rate of women with breast cancer. Simply stated, those who had a
strong, supportive circle of friends outlived (by many years) those in
social isolation. By our vary nature, humans are social beings. No man
(or woman), as the expression goes, is an island. As science begins to
explore the relationship of energy, entrainment, emotions, thought and the human condition, we are beginning to see that the vitality of human life includes a healthy connection to others. We can contribute to this vitality by forming communities of friends who, through their inspiration and compassion, add to this vitality.

In many ways the world has become quite fragmented, but this is only a perception. In other ways, the world has never been more connected, primarily through technology (e.g., Skype, Facebook, Twitter, etc.) But support groups don’t just happen. There is always a catalyst that brings like-minded people together, whatever the means. Recognizing this catalyst is extremely important, either in knowing how to access it, or perhaps being the catalyst yourself. The wisdom keepers remind us that life is not about the accumulation of money or power, but the expression of love to our fellow human, particularly in times of stress. This, after all, is what quality friendships are all about.

Stress Tip for the Day:
Take stock of your circle of friends this week. Who resides in your
innermost circle? Who constitutes supporting members of your personal community of friends? Make a plan to reconnect with your support group this week. Make an effort to move beyond the social networking outlets to have face-to-face contact. Organize a pot-luck dinner. Schedule a
tea party. Plan a weekend BBQ. Bake a lasagna for a neighbor in need or crisis. By giving support to others we learn that we benefit greatly ourselves in ways untold.

Links/Books/ Movies Worth Noting:
Over the weekend, I received a few video links that were just too special not to share. These first two links speak to the nature of connection, support groups and the need/desire for real social interaction. I think you will really enjoy them. I did. The third link contains more information about David Spiegel’s landmark study.

http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=hN8CKwdosjE

http://www.ted.com/talks/eric_whitacre_a_virtual_choir_2_000_voices_strong.html

http://whyfiles.org/039emotion/spiegel1.html

Quote for the Day:
“We are one big family of people, trying to make our way through the unfolding puzzle of life. We are all connected to one another in the heart. Connecting with the ultimate source of love is possible through discovering the hidden power in your heart.” — Sara Paddison

Photo for the Day:
Over the weekend I invited about 50+ friends from my local support group to come over for a potluck dinner and Celtic music concert. It was a packed house of great people, delicious food and incredible music. Special thanks to Jessie Burns, Adam Agee and Jon Sousa who, as
the catalyst for the evening, perform an encore to an incredible and most memorable event. In the words of Adam, “to come together and have joyful music and community was tonic for the soul in these turbulent times.” My deepest gratitude to everyone!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the
author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward,The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Can we talk about fats for a moment? With all the news about obesity
these days, fats have gotten a bad reputation. Here are some facts to
consider: Nearly every cell needs fat to help constitute the cell membrane (the external barrier that helps keep what needs to stay inside the cell and prevent things from getting inside that don’t belong.) Brain cells need fat as well. So do many hormones
(particularly the sex hormones, known collectively as the sterols, from
which cholesterol is used). Lipids are fats that are liquid at room
temperature. Some fats are essential in that your body cannot make them (it can make cholesterol and sunlight on exposed skin helps this process). The two essential lipids are Omega 3’s and Omega 6’s. Processed foods are very high in Omega 6’s (sunflower, safflower, canola oils). The American Diet is typically low in Omega 3’s (which is why you hear so much about this these days). Good sources of Omega 3’s are cold water fish, such as salmon, and flax seed oil. Oil’s can go rancid when exposed to light and heat (which is why it’s a good reason to store most oils in the fridge). Rancid oils can act like free radicals and destroy cell membranes (very bad for the health of the cell).

Stress Tip for the Day:
March is celebrated as Nutrition Month, so let’s go out in style. Consider incorporating healthy oils (lipids) into your diet on a regular basis. It’s also a good idea to avoid transfats (hydrogenated oils). They may be good to promote long shelf life for boxed food in the grocery store, but even bacteria won’t go near transfats—and neither should we. Transfats act like free radicals, and speculation suggests an association between transfats and cancer and heart disease. When purchasing oils for cooking, find oils that can withstand high heat (it should indicate this on the back label). And remember, eggs are good for your sex life.

Links/Books/ Movies Worth Noting:
For further reading, here are some good links to check out:

http://www.learnyourlipids.com/learn.php
http://www.forgottenfat.com/tips.php

Quote for the Day:
“Cholesterol is only one of the important lipids in the body and is not the only factor associated with heart disease. There are two other important lipids in the body: triglycerides, which provide energy to cells, and phospholipids, which are used in the structure of cell walls and in the insulating sheath that surrounds nerve fibers. All these lipids are made up of basic building blocks called fatty acids.” – Ronald L. Hoffman, M.D.

Photo for the Day:
Oh yeah…There is one more purpose of fat in the body. It serves as a protection to various organs, like the heart. And of course, keeps us warm when cold. These La Jolla Seals would know about cold. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

I receive a humorous email from a friend in Ireland this week with the heading, “Why Teachers Drink.” While I certainly found this email humorous, I can tell you first hand that several of my former students, enrolled in my nutrition course at the University of Colorado, wrote similar type answers on their exams. In fact, I decided to add some of my favorite responses to this list (see Definition of Terms). Is America education in rapid decline? I’ll let you decide. In the mean time, I hope that these answers put a smile of your face. Where these students lose points in intelligence, they certainly make up for it in creativity. Enjoy!

Question: Explain briefly what hard water is:
Answer: Ice

Question: What type of attractive force or bond holds the sodium ions and chloride ions together in a crystal of sodium chloride?
Answer: James Bond

Question: What is a Nitrate?
Answer: Much cheaper than a day rate

Question: What did Mahatma Gandhi and Genghis Khan have in common?
Answer: Unusual names

Question: Name one of the early Roman’s greatest achievements:
Answer: Learning to speak Latin

Question: Name six animals which live specifically in the Artic
Answer: Two polar bears & three, no four, seals

Question: Name the wife of Orpheus, whom he attempted to save from the underworld:
Answer: Mrs. Orpheus

Question: Where was the Declaration of Independence signed?
Answer: At the bottom

Question: Where was Hadrian’s Wall built?
Answer: Around Hadrian’s Garden

Question: What is the highest frequency noise that a human can register?
Answer: Mariah Carey

Question: The race of people known as the Malays come from which country:
Answer: Malaria

Word Problem: Steve is driving his car. He is traveling at 60 feet/second and the speed limit is 40 miles per hour. Is Steve speeding?
Answer: He could find out by checking his speedometer

Definition of Terms: Please define the following terms and provide an example:

1. Free Radical
Answer: Nelson Mandela

2. Candida
Answer: Country north of America

3. BMR
Answer: Bowel Movement Reaction

4. Health Food Guidelines
Answer: Don’t eat the yellow snow

Stress Tip for the Day:
Try to find something funny to lighten your heart today… and every day.

Links/Books/ Movies Worth Noting:
Decades ago Norman Cousins, the patron saint of humor therapy, watched many funny movies to help heal him of his disease. With stress levels so high these days, comic relief might be the perfect antidote or stress relief Rx. So with this in mind, this weekend I would like to recommend one of my all time favorite movies, What’s up Doc? staring Barbara Streistand and Ryan O’Neill to lift your spirits and put a lasting smile on your face.

Quote for the Day:
“If you stare at a carton of orange juice… because it says, “concentrate”… you might be a Redneck.” —Jeff Foxworthy (Blue Collar Humor)

Photo for the Day:
I took this photo outside a bookstore in Manchester, Vermont. Pretty funny!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The other night I was invited to a friend’s house for a dinner presentation on her recent trip to Rwanda. In an effort to come to terms with the genocide, the people of Rwanda are going through an intense period of truth and reconciliation. I had seen the movie, Hotel Rwanda, but hearing stories from someone who had been there were heart-wrenching. Over 1 million people died in 100 days. Deaths came by way of machete and bullets, mostly machetes. Countless people were hacked to death.

What fueled the fire between the Tutsis and Hutus was a radio station in the capitol that aired non-stop negativity, hatred and intolerance toward the Tutsis. Believe it or not, there was a time quite recently that everyone got along just fine. When the airwaves, filled with incessant vitriolic hatred blasted nonstop, things changed dramatically. It was no big leap to see the parallels between the hatred spread over the airwaves there and the negativity that fill our nation’s talk radio shows and cable news programs. The dots begin to connect themselves. In times of stress, negativity only feeds more negativity. Negativity poisons the human spirit. It spreads like a virus to other stressed people and begins to feed upon itself into emotional anarchy, and it begins with intolerance!

Stress Tip for the Day: It’s not just enough to NOT listen to intolerance broadcast over the airwaves. Ultimately, this is no better than sticking your head in the sand. It’s important to let the voice of compassion rise above the voice of ego. As the expression goes, “the sin of intolerance leaves innocent blood on one’s hands.” Rwanda may seem like a far away place, yet if you think something like that couldn’t happen here, please remind yourself about the shooting that took place in Tucson recently. Inoculate yourself from this emotional virus by opening your heart. Compassion is the metaphorical antidote to intolerance.

Links/Books/ Movies Worth Noting: If you haven’t seen the movie, Hotel Rwanda, consider it a must see movie and add it to your list of movies to watch… soon.

Quote for the Day: “Intolerance is itself a form of violence and an obstacle to the growth of a true democratic spirit.” — Mohandus Gandhi

“I never will, by any word or act, bow to the shrine of intolerance or admit a right of inquiry into the religious opinions of others.”— Thomas Jefferson

Photo for the Day: This photo of The Milles Collines Hotel was given to me by my friend, Seana Lowe Steffen (www.Restorative-Leadership.org), for the purpose of today’s blog. This is the hotel now known the world over as Hotel Rwanda, where the hotel manager Paul Rusesabagina safely hid his fellow countrymen and literally saved thousands of lives. Thanks Seana!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Today is a day when we all celebrate being Irish. Being of Irish ancestry (the McNulty clan) and having been to the Emerald Isle a few times, I can tell you there is much to celebrate: Here are some fun facts to ponder about our Irish brethren:

• The most common surname in Ireland is Murphy.
• The Celtic harp, not the shamrock, is the symbol of Ireland and can be found on the Irish Passport and the back of the 1 EU coin.
• The style of dance known as “River dance” was created when the British outlawed Celtic music and dance centuries ago, hence people learned to dance with little motion from the waist up so that it appeared from the outside of pub windows that nothing was going on.
• Bono (of U2 fame) is the only person who has been nominated for an Oscar, Grammy, Golden Globe and Nobel Peace Prize.
• Although Enya has never performed a live concert (other than the Academy Awards), she has sold over 70+ million albums.
• Like Switzerland, Ireland is a neutral country.
• The expressions, “Tying the knot” and “honeymoon” are original Irish expressions
• The Blarney Stone is actually part of a castle wall (the Blarney Castle). To kiss the stone, you have to climb to the top of the castle and lay on your back over the edge holding on to guard rails.
• The world “galore” comes from the Gaelic words “go leor” which means “plenty.”
The Irish don’t use the expression, “Top of the Morning.” This line was created by two screenwriters for a Bing Crosby movie of the same name.
Speaking of movies, the Cliffs of Moher, one of Ireland’s most popular tourist attractions, were filmed in The Princess Bride as the “Cliffs of Insanity.”

Stress Tip for the Day:
You can start by wearing something green today, but if you really want to practice stress management Celtic style, start by wearing a smile. The Irish pride themselves by not taking themselves too seriously (this comes from 800 years of British occupation where they nearly lost their religion, language, music and culture), and… they have a great sense of humor! Smile!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
Here are my top 10 Irish movie recommendations:
1. Waking Ned Divine
2. My Left Foot
3. The Secret of Roan Inis
4. Michael Collins
5. The Commitments 6. Ondine
7. Book of Kells
8. Into the West
9. In the Name of the Father
10. The Wind that Shakes the Barley
• Also, if you get a chance to see the PBS special, The High Kings, don’t miss it.

Quote for the Day:
“May your blessings outnumber the shamrocks that grow, and may trouble avoid you wherever you go.” — Irish Blessing

Photo for the Day:
There were a great many images to choose from, but the Cliffs of Moher are one of the top tourist sites in the country. So to honor Ireland (and the perennial favorite movie which has nothing to do with Ireland, The Princess Bride) here is a photo of the renowned Cliffs of Moher. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Natural calamities, like the earthquake and tsunami in Japan this week, are hard to predict with certainty, yet basic preparedness for crises, any crises, is essential for everyone. Living in Colorado may seem like a safe place, yet in this dry climate brush fires are common—often forcing evacuations from homes, sometimes for days. Regardless of where you live, from recent events we have all learned that it is quite wise to be well prepared. This includes, but not limited to, stocking a three-five day supply of drinkable water, food, energy (e.g., flashlight batteries, candles, matches, etc.). Friends often remind friends here in Colorado to carry an extra supply of clothes and blankets when traveling in the mountains, in the event of dramatic changes in weather.

Being prepared isn’t a fear-based reaction. Being prepared is a level headed response, in the event there is a disruption of one’s normal daily routine. Being properly prepared allows you to live comfortabely “in the moment.” Before the comfort of 20st century lifestyles, people knew to be prepared, with stocks of such things. By and large, as Americans, we live a very comfortable lifestyle and we have become disconnected with the cycles of the natural world in which we live. Preparing for such events that can disrupt one’s comfort levels is always good stress management.

Stress Tip for the Day:
Make it a point to be prepared for a crisis or natural disaster that one hopes will never happen. Consider assembling a crisis kit, including first aid supplies, water, food, etc. Equally important, consider typing a list of names and phone numbers to contact or be contaced, in case of emergency (I.C.E). Include having a copy of this in your wallet or purse. Don’t procrastinate with this kit, get started today. And consider having a similar type kit in your car as well.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
Searching the web for sites, one will find no shortage of links to help you get prepared.
Here are just a sample, and they all seem to list the same items.

http://www.ready.gov/america/getakit/

http://www.cdphe.state.co.us/epr/calculator/index.html

http://www.dhs.gov/xcitizens/editorial_0711.shtm

Quote for the Day:
“Be Prepared!” —Boy Scout motto.

Photo for the Day:
The photos and video footage from Japan is both riveting and devastating. To counterbalance the stress from those photos I thought a nice relaxing image might be in order, specifically one from the Virgin Islands. Please keep the people of Japan in your thoughts and prayers and were possible please consider donating to their cause.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.